Chelsea Handler has opened up about her views on love, independence, and why relationships aren’t her priority.
Emphasizing freedom and self-focus, the comedian shared her preference for casual connections over commitment and her skepticism toward marriage.
Chelsea Handler previously reflected on old flame, particularly her relationship with Jo Koy, highlighting the way it shaped her outlook without changing her core values.
Chelsea Handler Reveals Why She Is Not In search of Love And Chooses Freedom First
During a candid conversation on the “Angie Martinez IRL Podcast,” comedian Chelsea Handler shared her unfiltered thoughts on love, relationships, and why she’s not actively trying to find a partner, noting, “that shouldn’t be my agenda in life.”
Handler made it clear that romance isn’t a priority for her, emphasizing that her focus is on herself and supporting other women.
She explained that she’s never felt a powerful have to pursue a relationship, adding that it takes something truly special to capture her attention beyond casual connections.
For her, independence and spontaneity matter greater than commitment, as she enjoys traveling, meeting people, and maintaining her personal space without the expectations of a serious relationship.
“I’m here for girls, and I’m here for myself,” Handler stated, per Fox News. “I’ve never been very thirsty for a person or a partner. You’ve got to actually type of get my attention for me to listen in a serious way because otherwise it’s a bunch of casual encounters. You understand what I mean? I like that. I like traveling loads. I like hooking up with guys. I don’t wish to get too serious. I don’t want someone in my space on a regular basis. I just am not taken with that.”
While she doesn’t completely dismiss the thought of growing old with someone, Handler reframes being single as freedom relatively than loneliness.
Chelsea Handler Talks Love On Her Terms, ‘Cowboy’ Romance And Why She Calls Marriage ‘Outdated’

Freedom, Handler noted, is central to how she lives her life. Not having to envision in with a partner or compromise her selections is something she deeply values.
Interestingly, despite her stance, the previous “Chelsea Recently” host is currently seeing someone she jokingly refers to as “Cowboy.”
Their connection began unexpectedly at a Las Vegas blackjack table when he lent her $1,000 and later developed during a shared trip to Antarctica.
Still, relating to marriage, she stays unconvinced. Handler described it as an “outdated” concept and even questioned its traditional roots, suggesting it may feel restrictive.
Though she admitted there’s a likelihood she might change her mind someday, she doesn’t view marriage as something she needs or aspires to.
“Sooner or later, I’d just go, OK, f-ck it. I’m 50 years old, so I’d as well just go get married,” she said. “What could go mistaken at this point? I don’t care about marriage. I don’t care about that. I feel like that’s a really patriarchal thing anyway. You’re type of like property a little bit bit,” she said.
Chelsea Handler Opens Up About Jo Koy Breakup And Selecting Herself Over Love

Reflecting on her past relationship with fellow comedian Jo Koy, Handler spoke in regards to the emotional depth they shared and the way it renewed her faith “in men, in love, [and] in being 100% who I’m.”
Despite that bond, she eventually got here to terms with the proven fact that they weren’t meant to last.
In keeping with Handler, their differences reached a degree where staying together would have required her to lose parts of herself, something she wasn’t prepared to do, irrespective of how strong her feelings were.
She later opened up further in regards to the breakup on an episode of the “Now What?” podcast with Brooke Shields in December 2022.
The Comedian Was Not ‘Going To Abandon’ Herself For Jo Koy

Handler admitted she once believed Koy could possibly be the person she’d spend her life with and even found herself considering marriage.
But “towards the tip of the connection, it just became clear that this was not my person.”
Handler explained that certain behaviors and disagreements between them couldn’t be resolved, and staying would have meant compromising her identity.
“I might have been OK to do if I were 20 or 25, but I wasn’t willing to try this. Regardless of how much I loved this person — and I loved him a lot — I used to be not going to desert myself,” she said.
Chelsea Handler Reveals Mystery Rapper In Her DMs

During a recent appearance on “Watch What Happens Live” with Andy Cohen, Handler was placed on the spot and asked to call a star who has slid into her DMs.
Handler admitted she couldn’t quite remember the precise name but revealed that a “big rapper” had messaged her sooner or later.
Laughing it off, she noted that rappers reaching out isn’t unusual for her, adding that one particular message stood out a lot she took a screenshot and shared it with friends, though the identity of the sender slipped her mind. She did mention that the interaction happened inside the past yr.
Among the many rappers she’s publicly linked to, 50 Cent is essentially the most notable. The 2 briefly dated back in 2010, and Handler has spoken about him on multiple occasions since.
Earlier this yr, while appearing on the “We Might Be Drunk” podcast, she spoke highly of the rapper and media mogul, describing him as relentless, especially relating to his ongoing feud with Sean “Diddy” Combs.
Handler also joked about her unique status amongst his exes, claiming she’s one among the few he still speaks about positively.
“I’m the just one he doesn’t ever talk sh-t about,” she said. “Apparently… he talks sh-t about all of his exes, and I’m one among the one ones he talks about respectfully.”

